Reach for the Stars

Sue Tiong speaking to over a thousand people in Johannesburg, SA on 28th Feb 2017 #TycoonsofWealth

It has been a whirlwind first quarter of the year, 2017 has been busy with travel to many countries and it seems that way until mid year. I am not complaining and each moment with my little ones and loved ones are even more valuable. I cherish these precious little moments.

FEAR
I have learned to shift my focus on myself to my audience, my clients, the people I deal with. The moment I focus NOT on me but on them, the fear came to naught. It is as if with a decision to focus differently, the fear dissipated.

"It is never about you. It is always about others. Show that you care and they will soon care about you too."

LOVE
I have learned more self love and the learning curve has been pretty steep in the first quarter of 2017. Thank you for the realisation that finally hit that I have not been taking good care of myself. No excuses. The next remaining years of my life shall hopefully be extended by the steps that I am taking right now to love myself better. Fill up your own cup first before you go on with life. We can run on empty for only that long. Self Love is Loving the World.

GUILT
I have also learned not to beat myself up if I make a blunder because to err is human. I have also learned to release my guilt or self-imposed guilt. I have released many programmings and boy the worries are mostly guilt-motivated and life has been lighter than ever. Here's to a guilt-free life from now onwards.

HOPE
I have learned to hope. They say fools dream but I still hope dreams come true. They are slowly proving to be true. Never in my dream I thought I would be doing all that I am doing right now.
I never dared to hope to be a mother as my chances were so slim before this but now I am a mother to two beautiful children. I never imagined myself stepping foot to African continent but I have walked on African soil not once but twice in a span of two months! I never thought anyone would care to listen to me but now I have a steady following since I spoke in front of more than a thousand people at Tycoons of Wealth on Feb 28, 2017. We can hope, but taking action is what makes dreams come true.

I took action with calculated risk and a clear plan. Have you made your plan and have you taken action already?

To connect with Sue: email sue@srjconsultancy.com or check out www.meetsuetiong.com

Life's Lessons Learned by Sue Tiong

I am working at 1am and on my final leg of antibiotics yet I have never felt so blessed... I count my blessings that I have:

1. A beautiful family, my siblings and extended family, both parents still alive and well, beautiful husband Lee Chong Siang and I will die for my kids. ❤

2. A beautiful network of friends and associates. There are no stranger status once you get to know me. And I treasure each and every one of you whose paths I crossed since I was born. Especially more so since I met JT Foxx, World's No 1 Wealth Coach. Thank you #JTFOXX for what you have done.🤜🤛

3. A beautiful tribe, and even more beautiful business partners, Roz and Joan, you two are my pillar of strength when I am down 💪🏻and put me right back on my path and 🗣steer me to the right direction when the SOS (Shiny Object Syndrome) takes over my right brain but that is happening less and less now with mind strengthening.✍️

4. To all the beautiful spiritual teachers and religious teachers of my past and future from different religions I have crossed paths with, 🌞🌝🔥to all beautiful origin where I came from, that enabled me to be conversant in 11 languages and Asian dialects, Kamek Anak Sarawak, Oku bogok bala madis Bidayuh, Anang irau Aku Sayau Sarawak, oh, do I even need to prove myself. 🤷🏻‍♀️I usually just bask in the blessed feeling and that alone is enough and I don't need to prove anything to anyone, such is the unique upbringing and background that #SueTiong possessed.💁🏻

5. A beautiful team of Coaches whom Sue has crossed paths with especially since 2015. I feel truly blessed, and I am spreading my wings and literally flying places to do what I do best... to teach and to share what I know best. 

6. A beautiful 2017 so far and today when our eldest son turns 4, I look back at the losses 👼🏻and heartache of those who came before him but we couldn't hold on to, 🚑and I choose to be positive and I choose to be happy. ❄️🎭

7. A beautiful life so far and the making of an even more beautiful mindset and heart within myself. Life is fair. It throws just enough bad for you to appreciate the good; just enough loss for you to appreciate your gain, and I have been truly blessed and yes I can say now, NO REGRETS, Lessons Learned. 🙇🏻‍♀️

With that I share my joy of my blessings and wish everyone peace of mind ✌️and may joy permeates every corner of your heart. 😘❤#Motivation

The house makes sounds early dawn

So I was staying up late today and the clock shows 4.18am. Burning the midnight oil to catch up on work while the rest of the world at least in this part of the world are asleep.

I first heard it at 4am an echo caused by metal clanging on my chrome staircase railings. Soft but firm. I ignored it and sure enough it repeated within five minutes. Then the story that I heard last week about the recent death of the teenage girl who used to grow up in my current house replayed itself in my mind. This girl grew up with her family and walked up and down these stairs for many years before they moved away and just recently early June passed away suddenly. The father actually dropped by and burned incense and placed apples and oranges under the tree in front of our house about a week after her death. Perhaps he has this belief that her soul may wander back to her childhood home and no incense burning for her to sustain her soul (Chinese belief which is more cultural than religious). 

My overactive mind started whirring louder and I half expected to see lurking at every corner, a female figure in white with long straight rebonded hair like how the Asian horror movies portray their female spirits. Then I calmed myself down and took a deep breath and feel the atmosphere, a lizard just tsk tsk tsk away as if shaking its head at my foolish thoughts and fear of this poor girl's spirits. If anything I should offer a silent prayer to the spirit of this teenage girl and may she rest in peace and may her surviving father find peace in her loss.

RIP 😢 May all beings be well and happy. 

Have a calm weekend everyone.

 

Three ways to spot an Energy Drainer

The energy you give out really matters.

A friend was telling me that her dog got really sick the past few months and then she figured out perhaps the dog is absorbing her stress which started almost at the same time the dog got sick. Then the moment a big project was over the dog naturally recovered.

I don't know about others but for me I thrive in happiness and feeling light and I shun negative people and steer clear of negative conversation whenever I can.

We only have so much energy in a day. Imagine waking up to a full bar of energy.

If we meet a drainer who is full of negativity your energy bar may be drained and depleted within no time.

I have been guilty of being a drainer a decade ago and I apologise to many who knew me at my worst and I truly am sorry for draining you guys so much to the extend I lost some relationships. 

A drainer usually has these characteristics as per my observation:

1. "Woe is me" Mentality

The drainer always have a problem. He/she always like to repeat her problem to anyone who can listen, and with each telling of the problem, the drainer actually enjoys recounting it and got energised just by telling the problem to many people and got a rush of telling it. In the end the listener feels drained while the drainer went on to the next person to be the target listener and the draining process continues. Change the topic when the same old story is repeated or pretend you got a very important phone call to make or just tell it straight to her face enough of your problem can we focus on the beautiful thing over here/this happy news etc. Or just walk away.

2. A drainer is almost always negative

If five minutes into a conversation you find yourself feeling tired or sucked in, in a very negative way, take a step back and review the conversation. Chances are you got a drainer there. Try steering the conversation to a more positive tone or make it lighter in mood. If your attempts fail then move on and excuse yourself.

3. A drainer is self-centred

A drainer is always self-centred and hardly pay attention to what you are saying or if he/she hears you they are always thinking of what to say to steer the conversation back to them and them only. If you catch yourself doing that take note and refrain from monopolizing the conversation. I learned it the hard way and I thank many who have told me off or pointed out to me that the world doesn't revolve around me. You may lose the friendship for a bit but sooner or later if the time is ripe the drainer will realise it and perhaps may change for the better.

Do you know a drainer yourself or are you a drainer yourself? The energy that we exudes really matters. Are you positive enough today?

 

We are Never Good Enough? Mid-Year Reflection

"We are never good enough". It is even more pronounced in Asian culture where we are not supposed to brag or be proud of our accomplishments and it is a sin to show off when others have so little. At least that was how my husband and I were brought up and we grew up on different lands in the same country, separated by the South China Sea.

I was talking to two young ladies earlier today and it was a very strong, impactful afternoon as I get to know them better and the 12 years gap in between us just melted away. These two young ladies were absorbing what I had to say like sponges, they were receptive and I was willing to share and we learned so much from one another it was a deep connection of human hearts, a 'wow' connection.

Upon the fruitful sharing and we parted ways, I became contemplative and decided to pick up where I left off earlier this morning that is to write. I am guilty of procrastination.

Writing has always been my No.1 passion in life. So here we go... My first 4.5 months of 2016 so far in reflection.

1. Start somewhere

1. Bahasa Melayu: Mula di mana2 sahaja, tak kisah Mula di mana.

One thing I hear people say is they don't know where to start. So my solution is simple. Start somewhere.

Anywhere. Once a circle is drawn as a complete circle does it matter where you started? Will anyone ask you which is the beginning point of a circle? It won't matter anymore. So if you wanna do anything but still hesitate, carpe diem and just do it anyway.

The first step is always the hardest and we procrastinate because we fear something that we would like to just keep buried inside and not face. Face your inner demons and do it anyway. 

2. If you can't Then you MUST

2. Bahasa Melayu: Kalau rasa tak Boleh tak yakin jadi harus jadikannya MESTI Dan buat sampai dapat. Yakin Boleh.

Another self-limiting belief that is holding many people back is the word CANNOT/CAN'T.

Replace that word with MUST.

Strike off Can't and say I must try. Or even better I won't try it I will commit to do it until I no longer feel that I am not good enough to do it and the word can't won't exist in my head anymore. 

3. It is not shameful to admit you don't know everything

3. Tidak salah Dan bukannya sesuatu yang perlu dimalukan untuk mengaku yang Kita tidak tahu segala-galanya 

Life is a continuous journey of learning and exploration of new things. We will only grow old when we stop learning. Have you ever seen someone younger looking bored in class and in the same class a mature student looks motivated and eager to learn and participate in class? I have been in the same class with classmates 30 years my senior and I truly believe in the adage "You are only as old as you feel". The energy level of some older people is amazing.

Admitting you don't know everything is not shameful at all. If anything, the moment you acknowledge that you don't know everything, that is the first step to an open mind to truly open up to new possibilities and lessons life have to offer. Life-long learning is essential to staying young and learning isn't confined to an education institution. We can learn from anyone we meet and any challenges we face or just by greeting a stranger with a smile and learn that a smile can do so much to make a difference in another person's life. If that smile doesn't result in another smile, learn that things do not always work in your favour, and you don't have to be hard on yourself as you smiled and tried and the energy you emitted just does not resonate with that frowning person's wavelength. 

Be kind to yourself first before helping others and be confident enough to excel in life. 

Successful people grow together by helping each other.  Selfishness can only bring you so far before you are stuck in a plateau.

Sharing is caring. Cliche but true. 

May we reflect on how much we have lived our lives up to May 18, 2016, or whatever date you are reading this on. If we are not satisfied with our lives so far then what have we done to make it better? Why aren't you doing it already? If it is fear that is holding you back, then remember 95% of what we worry about never happen and even if in the event the worst happen, always treat it as a learning experience.

May all of us find inner peace and have restful sleep. *peace* Sue xoxo

This post is dedicated to Hyh and Faz.

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